What is a defining moment? Who decides what can be a defining moment and what can't be one?
Can what we identify as a defining moment change with age, experience, time?
I have had a few defining moments in my life. Moments where I felt like life came to a standstill. Moments where I knew life was never going to be the same again. For each of us defining moments are linked to things like health, work, family etc. I have heard from people that health tends to be a common one, and a difficult one at that.
My defining moments are all health related.
At 17, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia which is a lifelong condition with no cure. I was told I was going to have a hidden disability that I needed to learn to live with.
At 30, I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. Life was never going to be the same again. The feeling of loss never leaves you.
At 32, I got diagnosed with blocked fallopian tubes which occured as a result of my miscarriage. Being told you cant have kids without IVF in a hospital room after a morning of procedures is a feeling I cannot put into words.
When I did my PhD research in infertility and it's impact on mental health, I knew there was a chance I could be one of the women I spoke to, read about and worked with. BUT till I was in that room I don't think I ever really believed it.
There is a lot that I dont know. I dont know how life is going to look like going forward. I dont know what path my husband and I will choose. I dont know when we will make these decisions.
BUT there is a lot I do know.
I know that each of the defining moments I have had have led me to do good things. It has led me towards the impactful work that I do, with the level of empathy and care that I bring, with the focus on making life a little better for the ones I work with.
I will be taking a break from coaching women going through fertility treatments as that is a conflict at this point in time. I will be kind to myself and take a break from the book I am writing on breastfeeding.
I will be coaching on all other accounts. So please get in touch with me if you are interested to have me as your coach.
I will be starting recording my new series of podcasts soon. Watch out for those!
I am lecturing and building new programmes for higher education
and most importantly, I will not be afraid of being my authentic self in front of you
Love
Anjali
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